What you may not expect to change is other people. People see you very differently as a mom. They treat you slightly differently. Strangers will approach you and your child and comment or try to touch your kid (wasn't OK when she was on the inside, DEFINITELY NOT OK ON THE OUTSIDE). Today was one of the first times I have gone to a friend's house with Anna and met another friend of hers - also a mom. It was like our own little moms club.
It felt slightly awkward.
While I enjoyed it, there were definitely times of "WTF am I doing here" and "Please stop your 4 year old from trying to tip over the swing my newborn is napping in" and totally an episode where splashing water was accessed by a 17 month old. She's not very tall, and there's only one water source she could reach....
I'll wait while you figure it out.
Anyhoo, it was nice, but still....awkward. I was the youngest mom there, and yet somehow one of the more confident moms.
Maybe I'm just young and naive. I'll get over it once she starts crawling.
Which at the rate Anna is going will be next weekend.
You also get into "my kid is better than your kid" competitions without realizing it. I told them Anna was rolling onto her belly at 4 months old and getting close to crawling (she can REALLY scoot). Apparently this is a bit early for this to be happening, as some babies have yet to do this at like 6 months (or in one case over a year...?). And apparently some can be offended if this is their child - there is a constant comparison going on. And there's really no way to talk about Anna and what she does without entering this motherly pissing contest.
Tread carefully, new mommies.
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